Goddess Power with the Psychic Cowgirl

I have insecurities, like all of us. One of the ones I am working on is the struggle with all the information available to me as a business owner to weed out what works for me and what does not. at times I feel overwhelmed with all the resources available, and I have to shut down and walk away.  too much information!!!

then comes the Ok, this looks like an opportunity for networking that may work for me. so after much analyzing I go for it. to find that the group or person I reached out to does not answer me back. frustrating… why yes!! why have they not answered me or even acknowledged that they received my request or message.

exactly like when you meet a new person, you think they are Interesting, so you send them a message stating  that it was good to meet them and you admire what they are doing, and they NEVER answer back or acknowledge.  rude I think.  then you wonder, well maybe they did not get my message, or they simple think you are not cool enough or someone they wish to associate with.  fair enough.   would be nice though if  you could know for sure.  especially since sending more messages does border on stalking.

same with the marketing opportunities.  when they do not answer is it because my business does not fit in with their parameters, or  what.  a nice thanks for your message, but we are not interested at this time would be great.  takes the wondering out of it all.    isn`t there a business etiquette that states something like that.  it is challenging not to take it personally.  considering what I do is not to everyones taste.  a lot of people are intimidated and freaked out by it.  it would not surprise me if that is why I do not receive some responses.  that is their issue, and not mine.

so, since I do believe in the golden rule-treat everyone how you wish to be treated-  I am going to answer every e-mail or request that I am not interested in pursuing with a thanks for the message, but no thank you.  as I write this I sent off 5 e-mails to say thanks, but no thanks at this time.

it will be interesting to see how it all turns out.  with facebook, twitter and linked in, we have the ability to send messages and make connections with a lot of people.  this also means that some will ignore you.  feels uncomfortable.  yet, we probably do the same without realizing.  I am going to consciously choose to be aware of that also.   I have met people that I thought were interesting, tried to connect with them and was completely ignored.  I have not figured out how to take that yet.  still working on it.

same with people sending me messages that they want an appointment, so I go through my calender, send them some dates and then never hear back.  a bit frustrating.  I can solve that one though.  I now only make appointments over the phone.  I am running a business and my time is valuable.  if you are serious, you will make the call, or send me an e-mail so I can call you.   less wondering on my part.  especially since my schedule does fill up quickly.

as I reread this post, I realize it does all boil down to communication.   with all the different communication choices, what is the etiquette.  ( the question mark is not working on my keyboard at the moment if you were wondering…)   with our busy lives, we can forget or ignore communication requests.  is it a subconscious thing or a conscious thing, or have we gotten lazy with etiquette.  hmmmm…….something to ponder.

I am going to choose to believe that all communication requests that I send out and are not acknowledged or answered is because that person or group is not a right fit for me, and the universe is taking care of that for me.   there is always a purpose.   choosing to believe that they energies are not in alignment is a way nicer way to look at it than  feeling insecure because someone is ignoring you.  because really it is none of my business why they are not communicating with me, it is my business to feel good about me.  no matter what.

I am entertained by the fact that this blog post started out with my frustrations on marketing from a business perspective and ended up with the personal perspective also.    looking outside of myself for validation and confirmation that I am worthwhile.   enough of that.  I am also going to choose to rejoice in all the people that do communicate with me.  there is a whole lot more that do not ignore me than there is that do.  wahoo!!! and if I get really too much in my head about it, time to take a break and go ride my horse and look at my cows. they are always happy to communicate with me.  no matter what.  or listen to George Strait to take me to my happy place.

hugs to all

Shannon

me & Duke