Posted by Creative Goddess on December 1, 2009 in downsizing, lessons, simplifying with No Comments
one of my challenges in this incarnation is relationships with friends. I struggle with letting go of friendships that are no longer healthy. I have been caught up in the popularity, going for quantity rather than quality, and it has caused me despair. I find myself caught in the trap of not wanting to hurt someone elses’ feelings even though I am miserable in the interactions.
Facebook is a great example of getting caught up in the popularity and wanting to have a lot of friends. been there. I am an empath, what that means is that I can feel what others are feeling. it is a gift in my healing work, sucks in everyday life. being able to feel what others are feeling has caused me to stay in relationships and make choices to spare the other person. today, I choose me. no more choosing to spare the other person to the detriment of myself. it is none of my business what other people are thinking or feeling. it is also none of my business what they think or feel about me. what is my business is me. if it is not feeling good in my energy~let it go. I know for myself I rarely went online to chat, simply because some of the people who would pop on to chat with me wanted something. a mini reading, some advice etc…. I have no problem with that when I have time etc… sometimes though, I wanted a simple chat, a hi how are you interchange with a friend. I did not want to “work” . it did get to a point where when anyone wanted to chat, I waited for the question, from everyone. not pleasant. to do what I do I get myself into a certain energy. to have a clear connection and get the best info for the person I am reading for. I felt that I would not be in the best space to get the most accurate info when all I wanted to do was have a smile seeing what my friends were up to. so, I quit going online to chat with anyone. that is not choosing me.
I apologize to everyone on a soul level if you are hurt by my choices. it is not an intentional hurt. I am choosing me. I also realized today that by making excuses and explaining my actions to another for validation is not being authentic to myself. the only person that can truly validate me is me. The bonus of choosing me~ I feel lighter in spirit, and I have a lot more energy! wahoo!! how fabulous is that!
I challenge everyone to choose you! if on your Facebook friend list there are people that you are not energetically in alignment with and reading their updates or pondering interacting feels forced or drags your energy, consider choosing you. You can also put them in Facebook siberia and put them on a list where you do not read their status, or change your settings so that they cannot see all your stuff. absolutely. does that serve you? energetically does that work for you? try it and see. no matter what CHOOSE YOU! the other gift in choosing you and letting go is that space is created for even better. how fabulous is that!
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Posted by Creative Goddess on March 11, 2009 in Intentions, downsizing, simplifying with No Comments
with all that is going on economically right now, i have been working on downsizing and simplifying our life. money wise, i just stay out of Walmart. it is too tempting to throw things in the cart and justifing it by “oh its only 10 bucks, a deal really” well a few “deals” later and…. well you all know the rest of this story. so, i stay home, and spend my time on the internet instead. LOL!! so, in this process of downsizing, i wanted to downsize our cell phone bells & whistles. I called the company to do so a couple of weeks ago. I got told that I couldn’t or i would lose all my package deal, and a bunch of other stuff that I really did not understand, and was so confused after about 3 minutes, that I said leave it. I was very frustrated. Today, i decided i was getting it done. I set the intention that i would get someone on the other end of the phone who I could understand, and communicate clearly with, and that they would be able to do as i asked. well, SUCCESS!! after the first few seconds of oh, are you sure you want to do that, you can save money if you add this $10 plan to your existing ones. WHOA!!! I said NO, i am downsizing, i chose to not afford what I have now, i want to pay LESS!! there was still a little double talk, but i was patient and made them repeat everything a few times, so that we were clear. it ended up that they did what i thought they could last time I called. and…. i got voice mail thrown in for free! the only difference between the calls was my intentions and energy with it. quite possibly 2 weeks ago i may not have been ready to give up the e-mail and internet access on my phone~ well obviously since they easily talked me out of it. Today, i realized that i thought I should have those things on my phone, even though I rarely used them, just in case!! did it make me feel important & special to be so technologically connected? absolutely!! Today, i realized that I can feel that way without the phone having those features. SO, i downsized, and it feels great! but I am still staying out of Walmart, but a trip to the dollar store may just be in my near future! 
