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communication and insecurities

Posted by Creative Goddess on August 20, 2010 in Intentions, forgiveness, lessons with No Comments

I have insecurities, like all of us. One of the ones I am working on is the struggle with all the information available to me as a business owner to weed out what works for me and what does not. at times I feel overwhelmed with all the resources available, and I have to shut down and walk away. too much information!!!

then comes the Ok, this looks like an opportunity for networking that may work for me. so after much analyzing I go for it. to find that the group or person I reached out to does not answer me back. frustrating… why yes!! why have they not answered me or even acknowledged that they received my request or message.

exactly like when you meet a new person, you think they are Interesting, so you send them a message stating that it was good to meet them and you admire what they are doing, and they NEVER answer back or acknowledge. rude I think. then you wonder, well maybe they did not get my message, or they simple think you are not cool enough or someone they wish to associate with. fair enough. would be nice though if you could know for sure. especially since sending more messages does border on stalking.

same with the marketing opportunities. when they do not answer is it because my business does not fit in with their parameters, or what. a nice thanks for your message, but we are not interested at this time would be great. takes the wondering out of it all. isn`t there a business etiquette that states something like that. it is challenging not to take it personally. considering what I do is not to everyones taste. a lot of people are intimidated and freaked out by it. it would not surprise me if that is why I do not receive some responses. that is their issue, and not mine.

so, since I do believe in the golden rule-treat everyone how you wish to be treated- I am going to answer every e-mail or request that I am not interested in pursuing with a thanks for the message, but no thank you. as I write this I sent off 5 e-mails to say thanks, but no thanks at this time.

it will be interesting to see how it all turns out. with facebook, twitter and linked in, we have the ability to send messages and make connections with a lot of people. this also means that some will ignore you. feels uncomfortable. yet, we probably do the same without realizing. I am going to consciously choose to be aware of that also. I have met people that I thought were interesting, tried to connect with them and was completely ignored. I have not figured out how to take that yet. still working on it.

same with people sending me messages that they want an appointment, so I go through my calender, send them some dates and then never hear back. a bit frustrating. I can solve that one though. I now only make appointments over the phone. I am running a business and my time is valuable. if you are serious, you will make the call, or send me an e-mail so I can call you. less wondering on my part. especially since my schedule does fill up quickly.

as I reread this post, I realize it does all boil down to communication. with all the different communication choices, what is the etiquette. ( the question mark is not working on my keyboard at the moment if you were wondering…) with our busy lives, we can forget or ignore communication requests. is it a subconscious thing or a conscious thing, or have we gotten lazy with etiquette. hmmmm…….something to ponder.

I am going to choose to believe that all communication requests that I send out and are not acknowledged or answered is because that person or group is not a right fit for me, and the universe is taking care of that for me. there is always a purpose. choosing to believe that they energies are not in alignment is a way nicer way to look at it than feeling insecure because someone is ignoring you. because really it is none of my business why they are not communicating with me, it is my business to feel good about me. no matter what.

I am entertained by the fact that this blog post started out with my frustrations on marketing from a business perspective and ended up with the personal perspective also. looking outside of myself for validation and confirmation that I am worthwhile. enough of that. I am also going to choose to rejoice in all the people that do communicate with me. there is a whole lot more that do not ignore me than there is that do. wahoo!!! and if I get really too much in my head about it, time to take a break and go ride my horse and look at my cows. they are always happy to communicate with me. no matter what. or listen to George Strait to take me to my happy place.

hugs to all

Shannon

me & Duke

rejection vs releasing

Posted by Creative Goddess on July 2, 2010 in Intentions, flow of life, lessons with 2 Comments

recently I went through my facebook page to delete old posts. I had no idea it would be so emotional. wow! as I deleted posts for the last couple of years, it felt like browsing through my life. some posts made me laugh, and some made me sad.

as I scrolled through my posts and saw messages from people I no longer have connections with, that made me sad. I miss them. even though I know we are not in vibrational alignment I still miss them. then comes the wondering… since I am missing them does that mean I should reach out and try to reconnect? well as soon as I use the word should I know it is not coming from the right place. It is coming from that rejection feeling. that part of us that really wants everyone to like us. even though we may have been the one to let go of the connection, it still feels like rejection, and it still hurts.

I had to take a step back and replay events and really tune into myself to see if I wanted the connection or I just wanted to feel better about being rejected or doing the rejecting. I realize that I am using the wrong word. rejection has a strong negative energy. the word release feels better. we both released an energy of a connection that did not feel right anymore. the energy of release feels less like a closed slammed locked door than the energy of rejection. release feels like it was done for the benefit of both parties. rejection feels one-sided.

so, as I go forward anytime I disconnect from someone or they disconnect from me, I will not take it personal or as a rejection. But as a release for both of us. releasing energies that are no longer working creates space for other energies that do work. so to everyone who has released me and to those I have released. THANK YOU!

sacred geometry for release

Bullying

Posted by Creative Goddess on June 23, 2010 in Intentions, flow of life, guidance with 3 Comments

as I chat with other moms, and receive e-mails about their experiences, I am saddened and appalled. the stories all have a similar theme. their child was being bullied and nothing was done in the school system. it carried on for months until the child stood up for himself/herself. sometimes that got them into trouble. but the bullying stopped. makes me ponder if the zero tolerance for bullying dogma we hear is just that. a case of talking the talk, but not walking the walk.

I am taking a stand on our incident. I have had moms tell me are you sure? what if it gets worse? I understand where they are coming from, and I empathize. right now though, I have an opportunity to take a stand and I am going to do my best, even though it feels uncomfortable and I am concerned for my son. I see why a lot is swept under the rug, and excuses made. Occurs to me that we moms and dads are being bullied by the system. everyone I have spoken with is frustrated and feel that they are not taken seriously or are “handled” to keep them appeased. I find this wrong.

I have asked for a written apology for my son and for the bus driver. that is all I have asked for. I do not feel it is asking too much. We shall see what happens with that. so far I have not heard anything. I am very curious to see how this plays out. Warrior Mommy may be headed to the school tomorrow.

as Moms and Dads we have a focus on keeping our children safe, and teaching them to be the best themselves they can be. We also extend that to our communities, schools and extended family and friends. when we run into what feels like a brick wall in accomplishing this it can create a feeling of defeat. that is not helping, but …. you can see how it happens.

We are to tell our kids to let an adult know, but has that worked? or do the adults get tired of hearing about it and the kids get a label of tattle tale? And nothing happens, except the kids are afraid to talk. this is one of my big concerns in our situation. I know that my son has kept quiet about a lot of what has happened. why? has he told and nothing got done, so he gave up? kids are smart and they learn survival skills early. we as parents have to place a trust in the system, but does it actually work? there is such a balancing act that goes on. we want our kids to be able to tell, but we do not want them to be a tattle tale. how to figure that out? there is a lot that goes on in school that we do not know about. how to handle that? I am so glad the school year is almost over. I will be spending the summer raising the confidence of my munchkins.

so, the initiatives regarding bullying are not working. here is what has worked, is that the child being bullied got the confidence to stand up for himself and fought back and the bullying stopped. there is a valuable lesson there. self -esteem classes in the school may very well be better spent money than what they are doing now. classes on anger and frustration management and tools for the kids to handle all their emotions is another great idea.

it seems to me that it is time to look at it differently. Instead of focusing on punishing the bully, what if we make them accountable for their actions, but focus on the child being bullied. the bully I am thinking has also had such an experience and is acting out their frustration by feeling powerful being mean to someone smaller. what if the focus is on teaching him or her other tools to handle their emotions. we cannot change what has happened to make them act the way they do, but we can change how they handle things in the future.

this has inspired me to create meditation classes for kids. I will start there and see where that takes me. I am choosing to come up with solutions, instead of feeling powerless, and upset.

we, as moms are powerful and we do know how to create change. all the Spiritual leaders say that it is the women who will create the change the world is longing for. I believe they are right.

thank you to everyone who shared their stories with me. My wish is for a solution that helps everyone. Kids to be more confident, bullies to find other ways to deal with life, Moms and Dads to feel confident that their child is having a mostly positive school experience.

hugs to everyone!

warrior mommy

Posted by Creative Goddess on June 21, 2010 in Intentions, flow of life, guidance, lessons with No Comments

today I got a phone call from the bus driver saying there was an incident on the bus. my first reaction was crap! is my munchkin OK? my 6 year old is small for his age. he is slim, and I know that he can be easily pushed around. he has a huge heart and would do anything not to hurt someone else, even if it meant he got hurt. so when the bus driver told me he got punched, I was horrified and my heart hurt. then warrior mummy kicked in. how dare someone hurt my boy!

I listened to the whole story from the bus driver. seems he got caught in the middle of a spat between 2 other kids. raises a lot of questions. why did the kid who hit my boy, not hit the boy who was irritating him? is it because my boy is smaller? or did he randomly swing and my boy was in the wrong place at the wrong time. how to know the truth?

so, off I went to the school to check on my munchkin. he had a hard time talking about it and told us everything that happened except the getting punched part. I wanted to cry. you can tell that he did not want to talk about that part. it took a while to get it out of him. the principal was very patient and listened and asked great questions.

this sucks. so many questions and while I do have compassion for the boy who hit my boy. being able to read energies I can understand that he is a frustrated boy. BUT my job is to protect my boy. He has told me before that he is scared of this other kid. I spent time with this other kid on a recent field trip and he is not malicious, but he is aggressive. he also has size.

now what do I do. It is June, the kids are all getting sick of each other, and this incident can be written off to those extra energies, and the kid randomly swung, etc, etc…. but do I want to. this is not an isolated incident according to the bus driver. she is frustrated. what if he intentionally chose my boy to hit because he is smaller and gentler and the other kid may have hit him back. I want my boy to know that his bus driver, principal, teachers and of course his parents have his back. although he may not have the physical size to defend himself there are other options. he can ask for an adults help. hopefully the adult will listen and not be too busy, distracted etc…. and create an action.

the schools say zero tolerance for bullying, yet what is the definition of being bullied? I think this qualifies, and it is up to me to be the squeaky wheel for something to be done. Is it the schools responsibility to teach kids tools to manage their anger and frustration? or is it up to the parents? what if the parents are not up to that challenge, then what?

how do I teach my boy to defend himself, that he has the power to stop a bully when he is physically smaller than other kids. tell an adult absolutely, but what about when the adults do nothing? when they are busy, distracted,or too many kids needing something. how do we as moms handle this?

do I go in demanding justice? no that is not right. do I demand a consequence with the intention of helping the other kid who hit mine, to understand that it is a good idea for him to figure out other ways to let out his frustration?

is it up to me? why yes it is, isn’t it. since the opportunity has presented itself. I am finding that I am taking a stand. it would be way easier to make excuses for the other kid, and to be tolerant and compassionate and turn the other cheek. but what is that saying to my kid? that the other kid is having a rough life right now or not ( I do not know for sure) and that he was just frustrated and did not mean to hit you. SO!!! the fact is that he did hit my kid. and that is so not OK.

it is none of my business why the other kid hit mine, unless my kid was deliberately provoking him, it is my business that he did hit my kid. and that I will stand up for my boy and demand that there is a consequence. if I do not, then who will?

it is easy for me to be compassionate to the other kid and make excuses, but that is doing my kid a disservice. he is no less important. I do not want the message to be that just because someone is having a bad day and took it out on you by hitting you that it is OK. it is NOT OK, at 6 years old, or at 7 years old, or at 40 years old. especially when you hit someone smaller who cannot defend themselves. I plan on talking to my munchkin when he gets home to get a feel of how he is doing, and what he would like to happen. as much as this sucks, and I am not entirely comfortable making a fuss ( what will they think) I also know that if I do not; what happens next time, and we all know there will be a next time. I will take this as a learning opportunity for me and my 6 year old. and take a cue form my 4 year old who absolutely does not let anyone push him around. I have watched him defend his older brother ( not bigger~4 year old out weighs the 6 year old) in a manner that was amazing. he ran screaming right up into a kids face who was picking on his brother. the other kid totally backed off. it was amazing, and a perfect way to handle a bully, without hitting.

I am also sure I will be called in when my 4 year old starts kindergarten, because he was defending himself and his brother in a manner maybe not so appropriate, but I will deal with that when the time comes. right now we are working on teaching them both appropriate behavior. Like we only say Sh*t when chasing cows. not in school. or on the bus.

oh the challenges of being a parent and trying your best to be good at it. to all the other moms out there if you have any tips for me, please share.

Brody and his calf named Angel

self-promotion

Posted by Creative Goddess on June 16, 2010 in Intentions, following dreams, lessons, possibilities with 3 Comments

Ok big breath in saying Assured and Breath out saying Shannon. I am working on the super fabulous Firestarter program from Danielle Laporte. I am on the lesson about self-promotion. basically I have to get over myself and celebrate my gifts that I can and do share with the world. I am anchored with integrity to purpose and meaning. ( from the Firestarter program) I am now proceeding with: passion-based, value-driven, do-good-things-in-the-world, unabashedly proud self-promotion. ( again from the Firestarter program.)
so here goes: I am about to shamelessly and proudly promote myself right here and now.

I am the Psychic Cowgirl. this means that I have a talent for reading energies in this dimension and other dimensions. I do this and help my clients release blocks that are in their energy. I can see, feel, and acknowledge these blocks from the energies of the clients words, and actions. it is so fabulously cool! I can also see past life energies, glimpses of future possibilities and talk to dead people to help my clients heal.

I am also able to channel energies such as the sentience Gaia also known as mother earth. I also channel a group of energies I call Merlin, simply because I want to. I also am able to channel a group of beings called Arcturians who are amazing at medical, science and business questions.

when a client has a session with me there is no script, we go wherever the energies take us, simply because I am tapped into a higher wisdom that directs the sessions to go where it is for the highest and best interest of the client. I am an expert at reading the energies and translating that into healing for the client. this is a natural talent, and it took me a very long time before I understood that not everyone can do it. In fact, as of right now I have not met anyone that can do what I can do so effortlessly.

I have taken a theta healing class, Metaphysics classes, and a channeling class to help me figure out how to focus what I can do, and to help in explaining it. it is a whole lot of magic, a lot of really listening, and a lot of connection.

I am using these talents of mine to empower others to use their own guidance systems. to release feelings of unworthiness, unvalued and to embrace their own magical, divine selves. to gain an awareness that life does not have to be a struggle, that each time you peel away a layer of your own stifling belief systems magic happens, manifesting happens, amazing opportunities happen, and there are no limits.

I have met amazing people. and saw amazing things they did and can do. gaining an awareness and getting out of their own way seems to be a key. exactly like me getting out of my own way on the self-promotion crud I was stuck in. I am fantastic at what I do. I have the best life, I have people who come to see me or talk to me on the phone who want to create a change in their life and I get to help them. I am blunt, I will call you on any BS you try to hide behind, but I do not judge. I have been there myself.

it is healing for your Soul. you get to see yourself in a new light that is way shinier than you thought. you get to start experiencing your own connection to the divine energies and do healing on yourself. it is a big ripple effect.

I say that I am a psychic~mostly to blast the stereotype of a psychic. I am an intuitive counselor, past life seer, future possibilities seer, channel, remote viewer, and all around amazing magical, bodacious, and quirky mystic. oh yeah, I am also an ordained minister, so welcome to the church of Shannon.

I believe limits are for credit cards and not a way to live your life. I have shown people we are limitless if we choose to be. I am living my dream life. I have an amazing husband, whom I have taught to be intuitive his own self, since I got tired of answering his questions all the time. I have amazing children with powers themselves who I love watching expand and explore their world. I have a ranch with cows, horses, llama, highland steer, and bulls. some are for making $$ , some are for my pleasure. I have my own business where people pay me to guide them. I have a store on my ranch that sells mystical fun items, and I only have to walk across my yard to work. my store is online and I have shipped products all over Canada and the U.S. I get to go to gift shows to shop for my store which completely indulges my love for shopping. . How fabulous is that!!

I plan for it to only get better as I embrace new opportunities. speaking gigs and more teaching, and working with groups is where I plan on expanding into. wahoo for me!! I am living my dream life and it is even better than I imagined.

thanks for reading. it was not nearly as scary as I thought it would be to write all of this. Cool!! now on to getting over my fear of microphones. hmmmm…. hugs to all

Shannon